tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215921114562401426.post7407949756221139213..comments2023-06-21T07:47:18.013-07:00Comments on 1950s Housewife: Friends - when is it 'safe' to have an argument?1950s Housewifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657303928804330853noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215921114562401426.post-46642378946869104572010-08-02T06:53:13.578-07:002010-08-02T06:53:13.578-07:00Hello! I just found you via Deer Baby, and your co...Hello! I just found you via Deer Baby, and your comment made me want to come and visit. <br /><br />I find making new friendships once you're past the bonding-over-newborns phase can be really tricky. I once found myself in a similar situation, and backed off. The friendship died soon after that. I think as you say, it's easy to become too close too quickly - friendships like that can be a bit like a love affair. And there's nothing like seeing your child slighted to bring out the lion mama - recently mine had a falling out with the child of a dear friend. I found myself hating her for a brief moment.Rachael Lucashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08253147593111042835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215921114562401426.post-43102909114083391922010-07-17T10:11:38.184-07:002010-07-17T10:11:38.184-07:00Thank you all so much.
@jen - I think she is going...Thank you all so much.<br />@jen - I think she is going through alot of problems at the moment, but normally seems so calm. <br />@LooBoo - thank you for that story, you know exactly how I felt then. It really trashes your holiday to see your child being excluded.<br />Expat Mum - I really hope I can keep her as a friend, she is normally really kind, energetic and good fun, so it was so sad that this happened.<br />I think I will back off for a while though. Perhaps we became close too quickly?1950s Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14657303928804330853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215921114562401426.post-90326999745314241592010-07-17T08:43:30.512-07:002010-07-17T08:43:30.512-07:00Hmmm. How bothered would you be if the friendship ...Hmmm. How bothered would you be if the friendship fizzled out? I usually find that I don't argue with my really good friends, and because we are so like minded when it comes to the kids, we usually deal with situations in the same way. With women who require a bit of an effort, I often wonder why I'm doing it and how much it would matter if they weren't a friend.Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215921114562401426.post-33272130740178053852010-07-17T02:41:41.647-07:002010-07-17T02:41:41.647-07:00Hi - this is so familiar to me - you are right - c...Hi - this is so familiar to me - you are right - children are the one thing that can cause rifts in the strongest of friendships, let alone new ones. We went on holiday with another family, we have a girl and a boy, they have three boys. It was a total boy fest and by the end my daughter was so stressed she had bitten her nails to the quick and in rage threw one of the boys' treasured cuddly toy in the swimming pool. Suffice to say things got a bit chilly that day between the families. We needed a longish break from each other when we got back and the wounds did of course heal. Infact I think it just informed us that we couldn't assume that just because the grown-ups got on, that the kids would too. Increasingly I found as mine turned from toddlers to free-thinking children, the gender thing did matter and only in rare occasions would my daughter get on with their sons. It's a learning curve I guess. I am sure you are just feeling more vulnerable as you are in a new friendship and you are more on a limb being new(ish) to the area etc. Lou xLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13457538074763854583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6215921114562401426.post-74013895444935768142010-07-16T15:04:54.933-07:002010-07-16T15:04:54.933-07:00Oh dear, I really hope the friendship survives. Th...Oh dear, I really hope the friendship survives. There is a chance that she was somewhat unimpressed with the goings on herself and that is why she got the red mist. I can understand that things might feel a bit awkward though. JenJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04057803269417950110noreply@blogger.com